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Why I don’t use the word “Infertile”

on August 16, 2012

On many of the blogs I’ve read, women refer to themselves as infertiles. Some of you may have noticed that I really hesitate to use this word. Medically, a woman is considered infertile if she tries unsuccessfully to get pregnant for a year. Hubby and I have been trying to get pregnant for a year, but we have technically been successful, even if the pregnancy itself was not successful. I’m sure part of it is denial, but that is not all of it. I do not want to insult infertiles by categorizing myself with them when I have not gone through as much as them in terms of fertility. Most of the infertiles I have met have TTC for well over a year and used many different drugs and procedures to get pregnant–without any success. We aren’t quite there yet (I pray that we will never be there; I never want to seriously talk about how far we are willing to go with fertility treatment). So I choose to replace to word “infertile” with the slightly awkward phrase “struggling with fertility.” Does it matter in the grand scheme of things? Probably not, but it matters to me.

Do you consider yourself an infertile? What do you think the “requirements” should be to be considered an infertile?


One response to “Why I don’t use the word “Infertile”

  1. steph50 says:

    I think the end result is the same : no babies in a reasonable timeline. Even if I’m super fertile, 2 years after starting TTC, I’m still childless… and I have to go to a fertility clinic. I’m therfore categorized as infertile, but I like your phrase ;)

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